I’ve been neglecting writing because I wanted to be positive and anyone who is on the job hunt knows it’s exhausting, it’s depressing and it’s just a matter of day by day. It’s finding that balance of finding meaningful work and having an income. I have LOVED my jobs over the years. I feel is vital to the soul to have a job that brings joy into your life. I watched my dad wake up every day hating his job but he did it to support the family. For that I will always be grateful. I told myself I wanted to make sure I do what I love. The downside means it’s been kind of a rollercoaster. I’m ready to find something stable. I want to find something I can grow in and have for a very long time and brings me joy. It’s almost like dating. Finding that good fit and feels amazing and helps you be a better person. That’s the kind of job I want. I will close my eyes and vision this and let the universe bring me exactly what my soul and my family need.
In addition to surviving the job hunt, we are on the tail end of this custody evaluation. It’s been hard emotionally as I’m forced to bring up some painful times. The hardest part in all of this is the gaslighting. When you leave an abusive relationship that thrived on emotional abuse, that person will do anything to save their image. The lies are heartbreaking and hurtful. I just have to trust and hope the evaluator can see through that.
Finally, I scraped up enough money to pay the employment attorney to get the rest of the settlement money an old employer owes. I don’t know if I mentioned but one of my previous employers assaulted me. The CEO was drunk/high at a party and was upset that I confided in his GM about his behavior of trying to sleep with me. I loved my job so much that I was painfully struggling inside trying to wrap my head around my CEO for way too long. I’m grateful I never gave in, in fact I was more and more disgusted but I loved what I was doing until it became too much. When he confronted me, he didn’t realize there was an audience and at one point he said, “I’ll tell others you came on to me. I will destroy you and your children” Lets just say the company wanted to settle right away((sigh)). However, they didn’t finish paying. When the GM finally left(like many others) I suddenly wasn’t paid. What company thinks it’s okay to not pay on a legally binding agreement?
I’m looking forward to getting past these last couple months. It a strange way, I’m grateful. I’m grateful to be home. I’m grateful to work within and see how I can be stronger. I’m grateful I can face some demons and work through them so I’m healthier.